15 >> "What
can I do to help my parents understand what I want to do?"
First of all, sit down and ask them what their questions are. "1 know you have some concerns about my future decisions, and I'd like to understand them" will go a long way in opening up communication. By taking the time to listen, you're not only showing consideration and respect, but you'll also be better able to address their specific questions.
Explain what you want to do and why (your parents need to see your heart and the depth of your conviction). Calmly communicate your goals and desires, and give them adequate information on the organization that you will be with.
Most Christian organizations have adequate to excellent programs for insurance, health care and retirement. Good organizations will be pleased to send information regarding their salary and benefits package. Many objections come from misinformation or a total lack of information. Talk to your parents in the context of how much you appreciate them and all that they have done for you.
If you sense pressure to fulfill their expectations more than your convictions, then consider saying, "I want you to know how much I've appreciated all you've sacrificed for my education. Now that I'm making my career choices do you have some expectations in return for your investment or am I free to make my own choices?" Getting their expectations out on the table will help both you and them evaluate their validity. Remember: your parents want what they perceive to be the best for you.
Some other steps to take:
Be filled with the Holy Spirit, and pray for your parents.
Determine specifically what questions or objections your parents have.
Take the initiative to get answers and helpful information for your parents.
Introduce your parents to other people involved with the organization in which you are interested.
Begin to take personal responsibility for the decisions you have to make.
Be firm and assured in your call to vocational Christian work. Parents easily can sense apprehension, which can raise further doubts in their minds.
Remember that disapproval probably does not mean that your parents will disown you. For most parents their children will always remain exactly that - their children. Letting go is often very difficult.
In response to commonly asked questions, Roger Randall has written this article about full-time vocational ministry. Roger, who has served on the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ for 25 years, has counseled thousands of university students and young professionals regarding their career decisions.